My Daily Struggle November 30 2007

Me and my boysI struggle every day. Those of you who know me may not be surprised. Finding a balance between being a mother and the business owner of Beaded Hope is not an easy task. I, of course, want to be the best mother possible for my two boys. But at the same time, I have a passion for my work that can sometimes (more often than I want to admit) interfere with my ability to be a mother. So I struggle to find a sense of balance. Some days I am successful, and other days, well, not so much.

Yesterday, I called South Africa to talk to my business partner who is also a very dear friend. She shared three different stories with me, each one offering a glimpse into the realities of life in South Africa. All three stories were moving but one story in particular impacted me personally.

It seems that the counselors at the Bophelong Hospice (in Mamelodi, South Africa) heard that there was a woman on the outskirts of town who was living in desperate conditions. They decided to visit her and check out the situation. When they arrived, they found that the woman had "messed" herself and was unable to clean herself up. They found soiled clothes in pots in the kitchen, reeking of rot. They found debris everywhere. And, crouching in the corner, they found two small children, witnessing their mother's suffering.

The counselors took on this woman's burden and did everything that they possibly could do to help her. They cleaned the entire house, took the children to a safe place and took the woman (who had full-blown AIDS) to the Bophelong Hospice to care for her in her final days.

This story snapped me back into reality. Yes, it is difficult to find a balance between motherhood and business entrepreneurship. Truthfully, I may struggle with accomplishing a sense of balance every single day of my life. And, some days, I may end up falling flat, unsuccessful in one (or another) aspect of my life.

But, really, I need to get over it!

This woman's story (and many others like it that I've heard or witnessed) is exactly why I am so passionate about Beaded Hope. For me, it is not acceptable for a woman (or anyone else) to slowly die in humiliation and disgrace. It is not acceptable for children to sit by, in hunger and desperation, and watch their mother suffer. It is not acceptable for me to think that it is "their" problem and that I can't possibly help.

So, today I choose to put my own struggle aside and focus on finding ways to help women like the one in this story. I'm sure that tomorrow I will struggle again with my ability (or inability) to find a sense of balance in my life but that's when I will come back, re-read this story and renew my passion.

with passion, Jennifer Davis Beaded Hope founder